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Midlife for many people with penises and prostates can seem like just a gradual dimming of something you didn’t know how to name until it started.

The changes that come with midlife don’t arrive all at once - full force, without any warning. Much like perimenopause for women, there’s no single moment, no clear before and after. Instead, there’s a morning you notice it takes longer to get aroused. At night you might be more tired than interested in sex. That nagging back pain you used to get from time to time seems to have taken up permanent residency. You might see a pattern — and, for many men, this is deeply unsettling in a way a lot of people don’t feel equipped or emboldened to talk about. 

Oh Satisfyer, you never cease to please me. The Satisfyer Pro Traveler Pressure Wave Waterproof Stimulator is the cheapest Satisfyer toy currently on offer and it is absolutely brilliant. This is not a faultless toy, not at all, but I can tell you this much – ever orgasm I’ve had with it has been near-faultless.I am currently part [...]

We get it, variety is the spice of life, but it can also be overwhelming. Whether you’re new to the joyous world of sex toys or looking to break from your routine and try something new, we’re here to help. First you will need to decide which category or body part you would like to focus [...]

In October of 2014 the SheVibe Team visited with the unbelievable Ducky DooLittle, the dynamo behind DuckyDooLittle.com. Ducky is a writer, speaker and Sex Educator who has spent the last two decades working in the field of sexuality and continues to preside over sold out presentations across North America. Ducky is the author of Sex With The [...]

A penis pump is a vacuum device that can help your penis get hard and stay hard for penetrative sex. The effects of using a pump will last about 10 - 15 minutes. This will vary with each individual. The results can last longer if you use a C-ring which helps maintain the erection by [...]

There are a lot of instances in which you may be looking to try ball stretchers but don’t know where to start! Whether you’re exploring because you’ve heard it can increase testosterone production or you derive pleasure from ball play… ball stretchers are a fantastic new adventure to bring into the bedroom for either yourself, [...]

Dirty talk is the conversational lubricant of sex. While some are comfortable in relative silence, or groaning leisurely, many of us are ensnared by the filth and eroticism offered from talking dirty in bed. Whether you’re a beginner, intermediate, or veteran smut-slinger, there are always new ways to improve your dirty talk. I humbly submit [...]

As anyone who’s ever seen a squirting scene in porn can tell you, it can be quite theatrical, shocking, and hot. It’s easy to understand why you might wonder, upon seeing such a spectacle, how you can learn to do this delightfully messy trick yourself. Like most sexual responses, squirting is probably something that some people [...]

Fisting is one of the most orgasmically intense sex acts you can do with just your hands - but it’s way more fun when you combine it with toys! Here’s a quick summary of what this post will cover: • Why are people into vaginal fisting? • The most common [...]

As a disabled person who is sexually active, I have chosen to engage with sex workers to have most of my sexual needs met. This may not work for everyone, nor will it be a choice that everyone wants to make, so I can only speak from my experiences. On the blog today, I [...]

When we think of dirty talk in bed, we may come up with language like: cock, pussy, whore, slut, etc. Many of us have reclaimed these words, and transformed them into something positive for each of us, and when sexual partners use these terms in bed with us, it can amp up the sexiness and [...]

We don’t talk about sex and disability enough at all in popular culture. One of the spaces I think is particularly lacking when it comes to our discussion, is guides for non-disabled partners to understand how to better assist their hot disabled lover. Maybe you picked up a hot wheelchair user on Tinder who’s DTF, [...]

During pregnancy it can be hard to know what is safe or not sexually. New pains and discomforts are discovered often as bodies change and hormones adjust and increase. How do we navigate sex toys and sex during pregnancy with these new adjustments? I found out I was pregnant and truly did not believe I would [...]

Anal training might sound like you’re doing obedience training for your butthole, but actually it’s a critical part of anal pleasure. Anal training involves using butt plugs to slowly get the butthole and rectum accustomed to penetration. Dilating the butthole before engaging in penetrative anal play with dildos or penises can mean a reduced chance [...]

Anal sex can be a simultaneously alluring and intimidating prospect to the inexperienced player, and the main concern sex educators hear is worry that it could hurt. Responsible anal play shouldn’t cause consistent or prolonged pain to the bottom. Learning to decipher anal pain and how to prevent and proceed beyond it is a key [...]

“What does it feel like?” is often the first question people ask about vulva pumping. Suction pulls the air from the cup, and the resulting vacuum draws your flesh in to fill the empty space. The pull and pressure are startling at first, but their combined grip is strangely pleasurable. It’s like getting a hickey without [...]

What is Packing? Before we get into the hows and whys of packing, let’s define what packing is. In this context, packing refers to the practice of somebody who doesn’t have a penis wearing padding or an object in their clothing, in order to give the appearance of having a bulge. Some people use the terminology [...]

Sex toys can be so much more than phallic dildos inside and mini-vibes outside! Here are 16 tips for converting or improving your toy box favorites. Mix it up and try something new today!Dual Stimulation Sex Toy Tips Add a vibrating cock ring to a dildo of your choice to make a custom “rabbit”-style vibrator: Rabbit vibrators [...]

Non-Porous Sex Toy Materials – Alternatives To Silicone Some of the most popular sex toys are made of silicone, because it’s flexible, non-porous, and allows for the creation of toys in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and colors. But did you know there are tons of other materials that are also used to make beautiful, [...]

Non-Impact Sensory Play So you’re in the mood for something a little kinky, but for whatever reason, impact isn’t appealing to you. Perhaps you find it triggering or just unpleasant. Perhaps you have extremely thin walls and want a quieter experience. Perhaps you’re usually on board with impact play but you’re just looking to expand your [...]

Pegging for the first time can feel like a daunting undertaking. But have no fear, pegging can be quite enjoyable and there’s no reason as to why you and your partner shouldn’t take the dive. But how do you go about safely trying pegging for the first time with your partner? First, let’s define pegging. Pegging is [...]

Orgasm control and chastity play are paradoxical kinks. In essence, people who are into these (surprisingly common) fetishes get off on the idea or practice of not getting off. If that sounds strange or confusing—or hot—to you, read on to learn more. Before we dive into the why and the how, let’s define some basic terms. Orgasm [...]

Spanking! It’s a time-honored sexy tradition. It features in ancient Roman fertility festivals, in Victorian erotica, and in modern pornography. It’s safe to say that impact play has been around for a long time, and isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. But no one is born with a riding crop in their hand! Impact play can [...]