Let’s get one thing straight: exploring pleasure with your partner isn’t taboo. It’s essential. More couples are discarding outdated scripts and rewriting intimacy on their own terms. And sex toys? They’re not just accessories. They’re tools for connection, communication, and a whole lot of fun.
Thanks to better education, more inclusive conversations, and significantly less shame, we’re living in a pleasure-positive era where couples are encouraged to explore their curiosity together. Whether you’re monogamous, poly, queer, straight, or somewhere fluid in between, the bedroom (or shower or wherever you vibe) is wide open for exploration.
And that’s where couple sex toys come in. From vibrating rings that turn quickies into power plays to remote control vibrators that let you tease from across the room, these gadgets can level up intimacy, ignite fantasies, and help you both discover what actually turns you on. If your curiosity leans into kinkier territory, mixing in sex handcuffs or experimenting with ball gags can open the door to new dynamics and deeper trust.
Choosing The Best Sex Toys For Couples
Shopping for sex toys together should feel like an adventure, not a chore. The key is to explore what feels good for both of you and find tools that elevate intimacy, not complicate it. Here’s a breakdown of different types of couple sex toys and what they bring to the bedroom:
Clit Vibrators: The Foreplay Favorite
If external stimulation is part of your regular play, a clit vibrator can be a total game-changer. Use it during partner sex or as part of foreplay to enhance arousal and intensity. These toys are versatile, beginner-friendly, and often small enough to keep things close and connected.
Realistic Dildos: All About That Depth
A realistic dildo can be a great way to explore penetration in new ways. Whether you’re trying pegging, want a different size than your partner, or simply prefer the look and feel, these toys offer flexibility without compromising that lifelike touch. Many come with harness compatibility or suction bases for hands-free fun.
Remote Control Vibrators: Tease, Please, And Play Anywhere
Perfect for public play or long-distance connection, remote control vibrators hand the power over to your partner. You can be across the room, out at dinner, or in another city and still keep the tension alive. They’re discreet, exciting, and ideal for couples who love a little secret mischief.
Bondage Basics: Handcuffs And Ball Gags
If you're curious about kink, start with accessible tools like sex handcuffs and ball gags. These add elements of power play, trust, and anticipation to your dynamic. They're simple to use, easy to communicate around, and perfect for couples looking to dip their toes into BDSM.
Beginner-Friendly Couple Sex Toys To Start With
Not sure where to begin? You’re not alone. The world of couple sex toys can feel a little overwhelming at first, but you don’t need a drawer full of gear to get started. These beginner-friendly options are approachable, fun, and designed to bring you closer without overcomplicating things:
Couples Vibrators For Mutual Stimulation
These are designed to be worn during penetrative sex, offering stimulation to both partners at once. They sit snugly in place, targeting the clitoris while providing internal vibration. The result is increased intensity for both of you, especially when paired with clit vibrators that add even more external stimulation.
Vibrating Cock Rings For Easy Pleasure Boosts
Cock rings are already a classic, but add vibration and you’ve got something next-level. Vibrating rings help prolong erections while stimulating both partners with every thrust. They’re easy to use, often rechargeable, and perfect for couples looking to turn up the heat without adding complexity.
Massage Wands For Full-Body Fun
Not everything has to go right there. Massage wands can be used all over the body, making them ideal for foreplay and easing into the moment. Some wand users even combine them with realistic dildos for blended stimulation during solo or partner play.
Blindfolds And Cuffs For Playful Teasing
Want to dip a toe into light bondage without diving in headfirst? Start with soft restraints like sex handcuffs and add a blindfold to enhance anticipation. As you get more comfortable, experimenting with ball gags can invite even more creative power dynamics into your connection.
How To Use Sex Toys Together Without Killing The Mood
Introducing sex toys into partnered play doesn’t have to feel awkward. In fact, the way you bring a toy into the bedroom can make the experience even hotter. The key is comfort, communication, and knowing that things won’t always go perfectly, and that’s totally fine.
Talk Before You Touch
You don’t need a PowerPoint presentation, but a quick conversation before getting naked goes a long way. What are you curious about? What’s off-limits? Talking openly sets expectations and makes sure you’re both in the mood to explore, not perform.
Start Slow And Build Up
There’s no gold medal for getting it right the first time. Use plenty of lube, adjust the settings together, and check in mid-play. Trying out clit vibrators or slipping on a vibrating ring doesn’t need to be choreographed. It just needs to feel good for both of you.
Make It Part Of The Play, Not A Distraction
The toy should feel like an extension of your connection, not a replacement for it. Using remote control vibrators during date night or while lounging around at home lets one partner take the lead and the other surrender to sensation. That kind of shared control can heighten arousal and deepen trust.
Laugh When It Gets Weird
Buzzing in the wrong place, slippery hands, awkward angles, it’s all part of the fun. If something feels off, laugh about it and move on. If you're experimenting with things like realistic dildos or even soft sex handcuffs, flexibility and humor are your best allies.
Safety First: Tips For Play That’s Hot And Healthy
Great sex starts with comfort and trust, and nothing kills the vibe faster than a preventable injury or irritation. Whether you’re using toys for the first time or adding new ones to your lineup, knowing the basics of sex toy safety keeps things feeling good and keeps you coming back for more:
Choose Body-Safe Materials Only
Always opt for toys made from non-porous, body-safe materials, such as silicone, glass, or stainless steel. Avoid jelly or rubber blends that can harbor bacteria or degrade over time. This is especially important for insertable toys, such as realistic dildos, which should be easy to sanitize and safe for internal use.
Clean Before And After Every Use
Even if a toy looks clean, it's a good idea to wash it before and after each use. Use a mild soap and warm water or a toy-safe cleaner. For items like ball gags and sex handcuffs, check the material care guidelines; leather and silicone need different treatment.
Use Lube Liberally, The Right Kind
Water-based lubricants are compatible with most toys, especially those made of silicone. If you're playing with clit vibrators or remote control vibrators, a little lube can improve sensation and prevent friction. Just make sure you're not using silicone lube with silicone toys unless the label says it's safe.
Listen To Your Body, Always
Discomfort is never the goal. If something feels off, too tight, too intense, or just not enjoyable, stop and try something else. Toys should enhance intimacy, not create pressure to perform. The sexiest sessions come from tuning into your partner’s body language and your own.
Explore Shevibe’s Collection Of Adult Toys For Couples
Ready to try something new together? Whether you're leveling up your toy drawer or just curious about what's out there, SheVibe makes it easy to explore without judgment. Their collection of adult toys for couples is curated to cater to all kinds of connections, from playful experimentation to full-on fantasy fulfillment.
Curious about lifelike penetration? The range of realistic dildos lets you find the right fit, feel, and fantasy for both of you. Want to dial up control and anticipation? Browse sex handcuffs or explore deeper kink with ball gags built for both comfort and edge.
And for couples who love mixing tech with touch, remote control vibrators and clit vibrators offer next-level stimulation you can enjoy hands-free, across the room, or on the go.
SheVibe doesn’t just stock products. They curate tools for intimacy, exploration, and unapologetic pleasure, all while keeping it inclusive, body-positive, and full of attitude.
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